tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8274150508216368140.post4536859630714340717..comments2023-07-07T00:26:46.146-07:00Comments on No More Merlot: Roommate or Soul mate?drybottomgirlhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10702877045042502693noreply@blogger.comBlogger7125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8274150508216368140.post-53681843349843555802011-02-09T20:53:54.482-08:002011-02-09T20:53:54.482-08:00It took us a while to get back into a comfortable ...It took us a while to get back into a comfortable feeling with each other. We were both angry and the first year of recovery was hard for both of us. I had a lot of resentment and so did she. Now we have a lot of respect for each other, love is still very much there, and we are more at ease. No more eggshells to walk on which is a vast improvement.Sydhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05642843245634635843noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8274150508216368140.post-49760595345926629822011-02-08T18:59:11.036-08:002011-02-08T18:59:11.036-08:00It seems many of us are alike. I am praying for yo...It seems many of us are alike. I am praying for you guys, we here as a couple began this a few months back. Isn't it amazing that our spouses have waited? Mine says it isn't....that it was a logical decision. I so won't look at it if the roles were reversed, instead I am grateful and working hard.<br /><br />Blessings my friend.Sober Juliehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17318097778780146026noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8274150508216368140.post-48351298528097152932011-02-08T06:03:04.521-08:002011-02-08T06:03:04.521-08:00Wow, I could have written this post. In fact, I wa...Wow, I could have written this post. In fact, I was debating on writing one on my marriage this week. Its been a rough time, I think more at the hands of me alone though. <br /><br />I commend you for taking the steps to make it right!!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8274150508216368140.post-26375707886474615852011-02-08T04:10:03.385-08:002011-02-08T04:10:03.385-08:00Well you may appreciate the fact that I'm sort...Well you may appreciate the fact that I'm sorta going through the same thing, and I'm at almost 3 years so I appreciate that you're willing to look at it and experience it at 1 that's fantastic! (I've spent the last year and a half avoiding the obvious)<br /><br />I had two great recommendations 1 from sponsor (a book called The Rules for Marriage by Ellen Fein) and one from a great spiritual advisor (GO BACK TO ALANON JESSIE! Alanon is all about relationships, like AA but different. Not a command or even a suggestion, through some soul searching with contemplations that he gave he helped me to realize what I already knew was the next step but just couldn't surrender to... STUBBORN and full of fear!<br /><br />I come from a family riddled with alcoholism from generations back and I live with another recovering alcoholic (I participate in service with and to alcoholics all the time)<br /><br />Since I tend to have those approval seeking and people pleasing tendencies (problems) and then try to exert control in those areas because (HELLO)that's what I do when stuff looks askew to me (LOL) I find that I am restless, irritable and discontent in my closest relationship because the relationship doesn't look or feel "right" to me. And I'm scared, scared to change, scared to look at it too closely because I already have doom in mind (I've got two failed marriages to prove my inabilities and people tell me my reasoner is broken and since i reasoned that marriage in the midst of my disease ... well you know "the mind reels" (I say with my best holly go lightly impression) ... and somehow I'm just sick enough to have stayed wondering (wandering) for 2 years in avoidance was the answer. Not total avoidance, I've learned great lessons along the way, I've taken loving action, I've learned patience, I've learned to wait for God to relieve my fear, I've learned prayer and submission, so many things thanks to AA! <br /><br />I'm coming to accept and believe that I'm at the beginning of a new journey, a new fork in the trudge and I'm kinda relieved honestly. :oP<br /><br />Can't wait to see what God has in store for you next!!! :)Jess Mistress of Mischiefhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14766848582303523764noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8274150508216368140.post-62619183670547880872011-02-08T03:37:38.192-08:002011-02-08T03:37:38.192-08:00Good for you. Give it all you got and just see wh...Good for you. Give it all you got and just see what unfolds.dAAvehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10378341182741173178noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8274150508216368140.post-50419022249257504322011-02-07T20:38:11.347-08:002011-02-07T20:38:11.347-08:00What a truly exciting story of another facet of AA...What a truly exciting story of another facet of AA recovery 'beginning'...for the 12 Steps of AA are not there to teach us how to not drink--but rather how to LIVE, happily, with others. And how to recover from all these other parts of the disease alcoholism, one at a time, one-day-at-a-time!<br /><br />Blessings, you help many when you publish this kind of post, including the author of FOURTH DIMENSION....me! GOOD blog! PEACE!steveronihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04010875412308487592noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8274150508216368140.post-89120736285794538822011-02-07T20:36:19.735-08:002011-02-07T20:36:19.735-08:00you got them....and it is a journey, one day at a ...you got them....and it is a journey, one day at a time, but be sure to enjoy it...Brian Millerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00722940075884718007noreply@blogger.com